/plaza/ - General/Random

>>3030
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hSUBBhlVn8&ab_channel=TUNE-MusicalMoments

Just put one foot in front of the other,
and soon you'll be walking out the doooor!

>>3030
what if you didn't do it

>>3037
it would mean letting down myself and others. and probably a lack of needed change

>>3035
thanks namefren

I feel like a nervous wreck

>>3158
What's wrong nonners

>>3030
i feel this
i feel like im walking from one banal crisis to the next and its so hard to keep up the energy to solve them so i just end up putting it off and then things get worse and aagghghgghghhhhhh

>>3159
taking a stab at online dating, and the stress of having to make so many snap judgements (swipes) that could create or cut off connections based on such little information just sucks. the worst is saying no to a potential match after agonizing over it for hours or longer, and then still doubting it afterwards. maybe I made the right call, or maybe I missed out on something amazing based on a silly quibble that I would've gotten over.

I also have an event coming up that I need to prepare for, which will involve expensive purchases, travel, lodging, hanging out with near-strangers for multiple days, etc

>>3161
Gah, online dating... The scourge of every loner.
It's good that you're thoughtful about it. Online dating has become so commercialized that in order to really play the game, you have to become detached and view the other person like an item on a shelf to buy. Well, at least from your perspective, you don't have to view it as that cut and dry. At least for the people you swipe for, you can make up for it by giving them an honest chance :)
It sucks that there are no platonic friendship apps, I feel like that would be a lot more successful at beginning fruitful relationships that might build to romance rather than making it your end goal at the start.
>maybe I made the right call, or maybe I missed out on something amazing based on a silly quibble that I would've gotten over.
The universe is chaotic, Marzanon... You can't fuss over the minut details. Say that you messed up a good relationship on your end due to a few bad decisions, how do you know that error wouldn't lead you to someone even better? I think this applies to real life dating as well. To quote a movie I just watched: The past is history, the future is a mystery, and the "now" is a gift... That's why they call it the "present". You have to follow where the world takes you.

Also, good luck on your trip. I know how stressful those can be... Can I prod on what it is?

>>3162
thanks for the thoughtful response and the good luck, anon. really appreciate it. I know the world is chaotic, but I can't use that excuse to feel better about every mistake, can I? I'll try to stay hopeful, but it's scary.
>It sucks that there are no platonic friendship apps
I think some of them have "friend modes", but they're predictably much smaller. some people on the dating mode say that they're open to making friends in their profile, but it I feel like it might be a bit awkward to mix the streams like that.
>Can I prod on what it is?
a friend's wedding, coming up in about a month and a half

>>3163
Are you sure it's a mistake you're making? Don't be so hard on yourself.

>>3162
>Gah, online dating... The scourge of every loner.
Not really

>>3164
I'll try. sometimes people seem like a great match in several areas, so it's hard not to worry I messed up by swiping left

>>3165
t. Normalfool

>>3167
I wouldn't describe anyone who uses dating apps as a loner. Seeking the company of others certainly wouldn't describe *every* loner. The fact that you missed my point says a lot. Well done signing your own post, you're close to fitting in with all your epic loner discord friends who use dating apps.

>>3160
#real

>>3160
>>3175
hugs for anons

marzichan is my safespace.
i feel calm when i visit here.
it feels like being home, and you guys are my family

>>3170
Yeah ok. Go back to bullying other people, jock.

I don't want to come off as taking sides, but sympathizing with OP was really easier before he conceded that his problems are related to dating.

Why delete I'm lonely thread

>>3177
You must be very kind.
>>3178
Reading this as an in-joke makes it funnier, while also slighly more mean-spirited.

>>3179
OP here - the original post had nothing to do with dating.

>>3177
that's sweet of you to say, anon. I hope we can live up to that image.

>>3181
Because I am a failure for showcasing weakness.

>>3186
don't say that, nonners. it's okay to reach out

>>3187
It's true though. You can't deny me this as well.

>>3188
nope, sorry. you are not a failure

>>3189
Proof?